Grief is complicated, uncomfortable and can make individuals feel lonely and isolated. As a culture we tend to behave awkwardly when facing the grief of others. Whether by what we say or how we act, we can sometimes be downright harmful. Much of the awkwardness stems from being ill-prepared. Perhaps the following suggestions can be helpful to you when a loved one is grieving:
1) SHOW UP - Most of us are good at being present immediately following the loss. We come to calling hours, attend the funeral and even bring a dish to the grieving family. However, we must continue showing up for the days, weeks, and months that follow. Being present and available to someone in their time of grief can be comforting. Stop by, show up, or give them a call. Be intentional to show them that you are still there, and you care enough to show it.